Tag Archives: parenting

The road ahead post-kids

Posted on June 20, 2011 by toby

Father’s Day 2011 was a big one for Renaissance Man and I, the first ever where we had no children on island to share it with. As of this month, both kids are independent and launched, and we are facing … Read More

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Rites of passage: across all cultures and throughout time.

Posted on May 18, 2011 by toby

Rite of passage –noun 1.  Anthropology . a ceremony performed to facilitate or mark a person’s change of status upon any of several highly important occasions, as at the onset of puberty or upon entry into marriage or into a … Read More

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The “Big Eight” parenting mistakes.

Posted on February 8, 2011 by toby

I often have parents in my office doing what we now call “parent education” (a.k.a. family therapy.) I find myself saying the same things over and over to a variety of faces so I thought I’d distill them here into … Read More

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Boredom. Necessary ingredient for creativity.

Posted on July 11, 2010 by toby

I grew up on Kauai in Hawaii in the 1970’s, a hippie child with few possessions and no TV. I firmly believe that free time in nature along with a lot of reading, provided the right soil for a creative … Read More

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